Love and Affection

Love is the universally loved world. Everybody love to love. Affection is many times referred as love but actually it is not love. There is a lot more difference lies in between these and that makes a lot. Finding the line between these two is very hard very- very hard. I have experienced it many times, one finding from it is love starts from affection but affection doesn’t need to end in the love always.

Love is the golden word in the human era from the BC to the future. It bins two persons by heavenly bond and suffices them to share their gratitude to each other. Love doesn’t need to be always between two lovers, it can be of mother-son, son-father, and brother-sister anything even between friends, but here we are trying to focus on the love between lovers.

I said love starts from affection, so what is this affection at all? Affection is nothing but the friendship, love and respect for each other. Don’t get confused by the word love here it’s like liking a person for his abilities or attitude. We described the affection, how it works? Affection starts when you get to know other person more and more may be through date, friendship and a general conversation. If you like that person and thinks of him or her as your possible partner you can say, you are effectuated to that person. Now many people take it as love and fail in it and put a impact on own life.

How we can describe love then? Love is like eternity, everybody have it only differ is the way of showing it. Love is when you start thinking about the person day and night (remember this can happen in affection also), and you think of that person as soul mate. This can be said love, another thing to know here is love doesn’t tear off in few days, and you won’t be able to think about anyone else.

It’s very difficult job, I myself much time fail to draw the line between these two. I found some things which I can use to determine the percentage or possibility of love and affection.

1) Love is eternal as said earlier, if you are jealous then its affection.

2) Think about the person’s negative things, if you can’t find one it is affection. A lover knows the negative things about his/her partener and tries to overcome them rather than becoming blind about it.

3) If you are on your 3^rd date and think its love, rethink its not, 90 out of 100 thinks like this and last find it wasn’t the love. Safest date number may be 7-8, but you won’t be daring g to stretch it too long, you can use some other methods.

4) If you have ex think about her or him. If you feel jealous about their latest affair if any, it’s not love you are still thinking about someone else.

5) If you both are friends for more than 6 months and feel like dating, go for it, it has 60% chances of love because you know each other very well from last 6 months.

Remember you may deny it, but friendship is the most perfect start of the love. People keep searching for love in others but they forget to get it from most beloved person your best friend. You may think it’s irrational to think in that way about your friend, but I would say, if you don’t think in that way then its more irrational.  Think about the fact, you spend your day with him or her and take good things out of her/him; you don’t get any problem in sharing foolish and nonsense things with her/him. What you really expect a lover to be? It’s just everything and anything a best friend will do for you.  It may be possible that you can do friendship with your lover, happened to me but it’s more possible that you will be doing love to your friend. 

We live in modern life but our thoughts are somewhat old, ethical. Love is the gift of god and everybody shows the gratitude to god by using it implementing it and I have observed a thing from many pairs, great friends can be more great lovers.

It’s not easy at all; again it goes to the route of drawing line between affection and love. Draw it using what I advised in the upper side of the article, but if you find its affection then also go ahead. Love doesn’t mean it should be pre-done or should be made in heaven, you can find a great love in your best friend. Keep one note, if your best friend is totally opposite of you, don’t try this one. It’s not always true that two best friends are alike. More over opposite people like contrast can become really great friend.

I don’t advise you to ask your best friend for date straight away, but you can think about it. It will be a great choice for you. We have many advantages of this, because both know each other, they know where they need to compromise and where they need to be compatible. It’s a really great thing actually.

I have seen many love marriages end up in crisis to both, because they find they aren’t compatible to each other. They were dating for six months to each other and still they didn’t have it in each other. In such cases most of the time, they are compatible and need to work out a little bit. The problem here arise is of attitude, their attitude cross and clash. While dating everybody tries to impress other and may compromise for some thoughts, after marriage it’s like change in the world and they start acting normal. Its good starting to act normal is good idea, but both need to understand why the change occurred and both need to deal with it sincerely. Divorce is not an option always.