Breakup is it really that Bad? May be it is Good?

Every relation in today’s world has an end. We are talking about lover’s relation here.  Sometimes the end is death and many times the end is due to breakup. Breakup is a one sad word in every once life. Most I see around had gone through it once in a lifetime.  Many have gone through it more than once. Love is a word of heart and breakup is mixture of heart and brain. Love teach us to leave by heart and like everything around one person, and breakup happens when brain start interfering in the hearts work. 

1) Finding you didn’t love her/him: The main reason. It’s really finding the difference between affection and love for each other. Many couples I seen starts from affection and end in love like feeling. Many times it’s only 2-3 dates’ relation. How do you suppose to know anyone in 2-3 weeks? Here in India we debate for love vs arrange marriage, we prefer arrange because we think people doesn’t know each other in arrange marriage. Doesn’t the 2-3 date relationship seem like arrange marriage in India? Many times it can be possible that couples are together from 7-8 months and may be in years, still they breakup why? Its liking blindly loving someone and when we open our eyes we get a major shock of electricity. We see the reality in front of us standing.

2) Betrayal: Another major reason. Many men or women do breakup due to betrayal by the partner. It’s a very bad type of break up. I am telling by my personal experience that feeling of betrayal is very bad, it eats you from inside and you can do anything in the shock of it. It breaks you from inside, because it’s like attack on your identity itself. Betrayal may be for a good reason or may be just for a bad one. You can’t justify the reason in this case. This is the worst type of betrayal. The reason for betrayal many times is attraction for other person. It is natural and tells you that you actually didn’t love your partner.

3) Long distance relationship: Many times one of the people from couple needs to travel at long distance for some personal or financial needs, at this case long distance relationship may not work, and it has its own reasons. I have seen very few long distance relationships working.

4) Time pass relationships: It’s hard to accept or look also but it’s true, many relations out there are built on the fact for time pass. Both people want to be in relation just for sake of saying and these relations never work out as you will get bored out or find someone else better. I won’t say this type of breakup is bad because the relation wasn’t done on any base in the first case itself. May it’s better to get out yourself from such false relations as soon as possible. For the greater Goods.

May be a very easy as well as a very difficult task. Why easy, because the signs can be easily identified. Why difficult, because it’s very hard to convince your heart that your partner wants a break. It can be both sides easy if you are in time pass relationship from first case. Following can be indicative points for you to know if your partner wants to break out.

1) She/he doesn’t care for you as mush she/he used to: It can be a false indicative also as the love or care can become less due in factor of time or in some circumstances like stress, over load in work etc. It’s a hard line to know the difference here.

2) Avoiding phone calls: If your partner is avoiding your phone calls, it’s may be an alarm for your relationship. Again it can be a false alarm but may be many alarm with each other is a right alarm to tell you the truth.

3) Many lies with you: If she/he start laying to you, and show awkwardness around you then it’s a real alarm. There is no false positive here. This is a definite one.

4) Avoid you for many days: If it is done for a good reason leave this, if not take it. It’s up to you to know the real reason behind it.

1)      Think about yourself, realize is it pain or relaxation for you. It’s like searching yourself for the actual thing you want. It is possible that you may also want the same thing from him/her. In the case you want the same thing talk clearly with your partner about this thing and clear the matter peacefully.

2)      Talk with him patiently, try to know the reason behind his attitude, if require compromise in something and get him/her back.

3)      If you feel after all your tries it’s not going to work out end it peacefully. Hurting yourself is the worst you can do.

4)      I would suggest don’t try to befriend him/her as seeing her/him again for sometime will increase the pain for you. Its better sometimes to say good bye for long time.

5)      If you feel crying cry, talk with your best friend and be relaxed. Please don’t try to get in next relationship fast, as it will be a blind or rage relationship.

Breakup is not an end of the world and you can work out easily from the above situations if you really wish to. That’s actually subject of another hub. I want to just convey you the message that, world I still with you. May be its her/his bad luck of losing you from his/her life. Life is beautiful and it will remain always beautiful, maybe I can write a hub on how to overcome the breakup topic also.